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Should we be Angry?

I’ll reveal something about my private life.

I’ve been seeing a therapist for the past 8 years dealing with the catch all term ‘anger issues.’

This may come as a surprise to some who know me as that jolly old bloke off the telly, the happy go lucky mechanoid and engineering enthusiast who’s always excited and full of optimism.

Anger issues doesn’t really explain anything, it’s almost Victorian in its polite description of the emotional turmoil I’ve been through.

Now I’m much less angry and a great deal happier, on a day to day basis if something goes wrong my heart rate doesn’t go through the roof, I don’t shout or slam doors, I don’t sulk or ruminate on how horrible I am for days afterwards.

Essentially, talking therapy has helped me.

So when we are confronted with the greed, stupidity and selfishness of our politicians and corporate bosses, when we see the short termism of their policies and the widespread corruption of the political class, should we be angry?

I’ve spent years learning how not to be angry in my private life, it’s been a really tough journey and I’m only partially recovered; however I can see the benefits, they are manifest and delightful.

So surely, I tell myself, being angry at the wider world, at monstrous corporations and conniving politicians is equally damaging, not to them, but to us, the futile angry.

I am aware of the arguments, it’s all about focus, it’s all about, as Jesus suggested, being aware of the plank in your own eye before pointing to the mote of sawdust in your neighbours.

It’s about knowing where your anger comes from and being aware of your own input into the emotion.

I battle with this all the time, if someone does something to me that is, by any standards, offensive, cruel or selfish I need to respond with an appropriate amount of anger to that particular incident. Not blow my top because it’s pressed some embedded button that is actually caused by my early childhood.

‘Yourself’ is a very difficult thing to understand, I constantly fail but I think if we get it right, if our anger is focused, clear and about the situation at hand, it is very appropriate and can be creative.

I think we can be angry at Maria Miller for example.

Not just her of course, also the dodgy bunch of untrustworthy politicians who are either keeping their heads down or openly supporting her.

Due to her political stupidity she can’t see the big picture, the fact that she is looking after her aged and frail parents in her second home should be what this story is about.

Many people are in that situation and an intelligent or dare I say it, empathetic politician would be aware of the plight of many of their constituents and try to do something about it for the benefit of all. Not just themselves.

So I don’t think my anger at her selfishness is due to the way I was breast-fed, it’s based on long and unhappy experience at the increasing corruption of politicians the world over.

Bribed and bullied by their corporate paymasters, the very last thing on their minds is the wellbeing of the people they laughably are meant to represent.

We should be angry as long as it’s for the right reasons.

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Reader Comments (8)

Thanks for letting us know how it is with you. It must take more bravery than I have to do so. I wish you all the best and hope you continue to make progress.

April 7, 2014 | Unregistered CommenterChris Webb

I think your looking at it wrong! Without all the PHYSCO babble! Ever here the old saying "fat dumb and happy"?
The less intelligent you are the happier you seem to be!
This I think is a genetic like "fight or flight" response!
Where's the intelligent human can see what's going to Eat him and avoid those causes.
An the less intelligent get Eaten!
So if you want less anger you need to Dumb Down!
Highly intelligent people are capable of more anger because they can see what's coming to eat them!
Knowledge an intelligence but not being able to stop predators leads to anger.
So I afraid you can only reduce anger by dumbing down!
The flood of information today allows us to quickly see what's coming to eat us and the reasons it coming. So if you cut off the info like twitter you will be happier!
Well we all know that's not going to happen with you,so live with it.
But things like twitter let you express your anger so it has some curative effects and maybe even eliminate so sources of it.
These no curing anger! It's genetic!

April 7, 2014 | Unregistered CommenterPecospete

I agree with you. Some times we should be angry. In fact, and certainly in cases like this (Maria Miller) and Australia's treatment of asylum seekers for example, we should be a damn sight more angry. We employ politicians to represent us and to make decisions and create policy that benefit us all in the best way possible. We don't employ them to sit in ivory towers making decisions that primarily benefit no-one but themselves. When they do we should be able to sanction them as we would be sanctioned in similar circumstances. Not in a year or so at the next election, but now. Immediately. Before any more damage can be done. We need a method in our society whereby we can petition the Crown to remove members of parliament or, on occasion, the whole government when enough of "us" believe they are no longer serving the common good. Modern technology and communications methods make this possible. Perhaps, if we had that power, those "in power" would actually feel the need to perform rather than just sit back and enjoy their status until the next poll.

For yourself, well done! It's never easy admitting that you have a problem and even harder to be willing to do something about it. Thank you for your honesty and I hope that "things" continue to improve for you.

April 8, 2014 | Unregistered CommenterSteve Turtle

Thanks for sharing. Wishing you the best!

April 9, 2014 | Unregistered CommenterJeremy Frank

Bob, we've been here before.

J

April 9, 2014 | Unregistered CommenterJohn Medd

Sometimes we need to get angry, it's what we do with that anger that matters. I have dealt with 'anger issues' in the past ( when I pop, I reeeeeeally pop ) these days I am a much calmer individual and tend to direct my anger more carefully. Coming home pissed off will usually result in writing, sometimes I'll just randomly pick something annoying from the news and go off on a sarcastic bender into my blog. I have go-to topics. Our government (NZ) is so bloody rubbish right now they give me plenty to wind myself into a frothing rage about. Getting it out somewhere is better than eating it and growing a huge festering monster inside you I think. Getting it out without being a dick about it is the tricky bit.

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